When it comes to relationship, basically when you're young and certain
sentiments can becloud your sense of good reasoning, there are certain
facts of life, myself, you or anyone for that matter has to take
cognisance of.
Now let's take the number one (1). Okay? Hurting your reputation. Now how is that? You may ask.
Throughout life, I have seen guys (by the way I'm a guy), who are friends with many girls, a good number of them. Sometimes it is the other way round, and what causes this social issue is something we may have to tackle another day.
This person or these guys who are friends with many girls, basically they're 'players'. The girls think there's something going on, but the guy just enjoys, or is only interested in the female attention.
Think about this : Whether you're a man or woman, how can getting too close to this guy or that babe hurt your reputation?
Let's take a very simple example to illustrate this: text messaging.
Consider what Vivian says: " Texting people of the opposite sex is likely a huge pitfall. You start by texting just a bit to one person, but soon you're texting a lot and to many people. Before you know it, you're pretty much dating three different guys, and each one thinks he is the 'special one' you're getting to know better. Then what happens when they find out the truth? They get hurt and you end up -getting the reputation of being a flirt.
Note that this can also apply to other forms of communication, like through social media (BB messaging, Facebook, twitter etc).
Whatever you do, action speak louder than words.
The bottom line?-->
It isn't wrong to socialise with member of the opposite sex, but if you don't have boundaries and understand yourself, you can cause yourself grief, damage a good relationship, and destroy your reputation.
Talking about lines. Well, how would you know when you have crossed the line? One way is to ask yourself, has a friend of the opposite sex become my sole confidant? If you're 'just' friends with a boy (or a girl), he/she shouldn't be the first person you want to talk to everyday or the first person you want to tell major news to. He definitely shouldn't be the one you turn to for emotional comfort.
Granted, it may seem so appealing to make him or her your sole confidant . But what are the dangers?
A popular proverb says , "Be careful what you say..for a careless talker destroys him/herself.
There might be risks in revealing too much about yourself to someone of the opposite sex you're not in a serious relationship with, especially in these days of internet age. What if your relationship eventually fades? Will you regret having revealed such details to that person?
A girl named Titilayo sums it up well. She says: "Don't avoid someone just because that person is of the opposite sex. On the other hand, don't lie to yourself and say that you're just friends when you're not. Keep your feelings in check, and you'll avoid a lot of pain.
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- When you get emotionally involved before you're ready for a serious relationship, you can hurt your reputation.
- When you get emotionally involved before you're ready for a serious relationship, you can lose a good friendship
- When you get emotionally involved before you're ready for a serious relationship (mark the word 'serious'), you will get hurt.
Now let's take the number one (1). Okay? Hurting your reputation. Now how is that? You may ask.
Throughout life, I have seen guys (by the way I'm a guy), who are friends with many girls, a good number of them. Sometimes it is the other way round, and what causes this social issue is something we may have to tackle another day.
This person or these guys who are friends with many girls, basically they're 'players'. The girls think there's something going on, but the guy just enjoys, or is only interested in the female attention.
Think about this : Whether you're a man or woman, how can getting too close to this guy or that babe hurt your reputation?
Let's take a very simple example to illustrate this: text messaging.
Consider what Vivian says: " Texting people of the opposite sex is likely a huge pitfall. You start by texting just a bit to one person, but soon you're texting a lot and to many people. Before you know it, you're pretty much dating three different guys, and each one thinks he is the 'special one' you're getting to know better. Then what happens when they find out the truth? They get hurt and you end up -getting the reputation of being a flirt.
Note that this can also apply to other forms of communication, like through social media (BB messaging, Facebook, twitter etc).
Whatever you do, action speak louder than words.
The bottom line?-->
It isn't wrong to socialise with member of the opposite sex, but if you don't have boundaries and understand yourself, you can cause yourself grief, damage a good relationship, and destroy your reputation.
Talking about lines. Well, how would you know when you have crossed the line? One way is to ask yourself, has a friend of the opposite sex become my sole confidant? If you're 'just' friends with a boy (or a girl), he/she shouldn't be the first person you want to talk to everyday or the first person you want to tell major news to. He definitely shouldn't be the one you turn to for emotional comfort.
Granted, it may seem so appealing to make him or her your sole confidant . But what are the dangers?
A popular proverb says , "Be careful what you say..for a careless talker destroys him/herself.
There might be risks in revealing too much about yourself to someone of the opposite sex you're not in a serious relationship with, especially in these days of internet age. What if your relationship eventually fades? Will you regret having revealed such details to that person?
A girl named Titilayo sums it up well. She says: "Don't avoid someone just because that person is of the opposite sex. On the other hand, don't lie to yourself and say that you're just friends when you're not. Keep your feelings in check, and you'll avoid a lot of pain.
In our next articles under this series, we will examine the second and third facts of life stated at the onset of this article
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